I was both honored and a little scared out of my mind when one of my dearest and oldest friends asked me to be in her wedding this year. I have known E for my entire life – we grew up across the street from one another and I can remember, though she may not, thinking about our weddings when we were little girls. We went away to different schools and started different lives, but I was so happy when our lives intersected again after college.
I’ve never been in a wedding as an adult – but I have to say, E is the greatest, easiest bride ever. Now, I watch a lot of wedding shows – I love me some David Tutera, Say Yes to the Dress, Bridezillas. This shit is like crack to me. E is in no way like this and I am, not shocked, per say because she’s a down girl, but I was expecting…scary. So many friends have bought into the hype. I can’t even let me myself off the hook. I have a whole pinterest board full of wedding shit and I haven’t had a date in weeks. I may or may not have a friend from college who had a full on binder, with pages torn out of wedding mags, on her bedside table. Sometimes I plan favors and center pieces and color themes while I’m jogging or holding side plank for an exorbitantly long time (shit white girls say?)
Whats the point here? I think E’s down to earth, straight forward, easy love might be indicative of what it takes to make a marriage, not just a wedding, work. Sure, parties are beautiful, and I like nice things . I’ve got champagne taste, after all, and I want the band at my gig to play nothing but lounge music….. off topic – but I wonder if people our age understand the difference between a marriage and wedding? My parents, though crazy, are still married, and it hasn’t always been pretty, but I have to wonder if some of it isn’t due to their humble beginning – dad selling his ring when the business went under, working opposite shifts to pay the bills, a small ceremony and a local church on a wicked hot day. Meanwhile, I say this while Say Yes to the Dress HOTLANTA is on in the background. Someone bring me a glass of red wine.
